I had a c-section when I was just 16 years old, it wasn’t planned it was actually very much necessary. My body couldn’t take it because because my bones weren’t developed enough to sustain birth. So I was rushed into the operating room with no one around just me in a room full of strangers. I remember hearing Noah cry and seeing him for a very brief moment but then I dozed off. Next thing I remember is waking up alone. I was eventually moved to my recovery room where they would bring Noah when he was hungry but thats about it. He wouldn’t stay the night next to me. My only interaction with my baby was feeding time for the first day and half.
Then to make matters worse…when I was discharged I fell sick, I couldn’t hold, change, or feed Noah for almost a week or so. And please let me get into how bad it hurt to stand, sit, laugh, and or walk. This is not what I envision my F I R S T birth to be like, but it is the one I got to experience.
And it breaks my heart to see cesarean moms get bashed because we “technically didn’t give birth” or how we chose the “easy” way out. But thats far from the truth no birth is easy we all struggle to bring our children into the world. We all experience the pain (some more than others) and the stress. But in mine and other cases it can sometimes cause more damage than good because we don’t get to hold our child and bond with them right away. I have read stories about moms not feeling that “connection” with their child, because they weren’t able to hold them right away. Not that they don’t love their child or want their child, their body is in shock that it totally blocks all emotions. Which then causes postpartum depression because moms feel guilty for feeling the emotions they feel.
Some moms feel less of a moms and that their birth story is not worthy because they didn’t experience what others did. And some mamas blame their self for not being able to do what a “woman body should be able to do”
And I just want to tell you my c-section mamas that YOU gave birth to your child! That your are a STRONG and BADASS mama for going through all of that pain and stress just to bring the little person you love so much into this world. That is a real sacrifice if you ask me. I know our scars might not be the prettiest or flattering but those little scars brought all of us the best gift and blessing we could ever ask for. Please don’t feel guilty for not vaginally delivering your child, its not your fault our your bodies fault. Although we are told our bodies are design for it sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way, and thats okay! Being c-section mama doesn’t make you any less of a mother or makes your birthing story any less. You wear your mama crown high and proud!
I am with you and I get everything you went through!
I feel as moms we should all stick together, because together we are stronger. It doesn’t matter how we birth, how we feed, or what we use as diapers just as longs our babies are happy and healthy thats all that should matter. So lets just be encouraging towards one another and crush it at being moms!
-By Simply Miriam